Our teenage son was feeling very pessimistic about his social prospects. He felt lonely and lacked confidence. Since working with Dr. Audrey Huberman we all have witnessed an amazing transformation. Our son has made good friends and always has weekend plans. He is happier and more confident. This is evident not only in what he relates to us, but also in his whole demeanour. The best part is that he was able to achieve this while maintaining his individuality and without any conflict to his integrity.
Mother of 16 year old son
The socialization process begins at home with the parent-child relationship. To build care,cooperation, and consideration – the three Cs of intimacy- into familial and extended relationships, skills focus on active listening, setting limits and effective communication.
Children can maximize their social efficacy by learning and practicing how to interact with peers and significant others. Within this category, skill building focuses on expressing feelings, joining in and/or moving on, perspective taking and problem solving.
Building a social network, managing peer-pressure, bully proofing and effective communication skills (telephone, face-to-face, and online forms) are select skills within this age group. Practical, real life exercises solidify skills while simultaneously nurturing social contacts and a strong sense of self.
Social skills continue to mediate an individual’s success in and out of the office throughout one’s lifespan. Adults benefit from training in the “social arts” of persuasion, assertion, negotiation and confrontation. Problem-solving and goal setting further support the process as personal purpose directs individual effort.
- Parents of Multiples
The socialization process is compounded in families with multiple as one or more individuals are added to the mix. To enhance pro-social interactions inside and outside of the family system, skills focus on creating respectful connections through training in three-way conversation, explicating each member’s preferences, and using “I” messages.